WHAT TO DO?
I am in a dilemma about what to do about my older sister. She keeps calling and wanting to get together. I meant to blog about the conversation I had with her last week while it was still fresh in my mind. I will do my best in a moment. I just don’t enjoy being around her. She just is not a pleasant person most of the time. She called this morning (twice yesterday but I let the answering machine pick up) and asked if I wanted to get out and do some errands with her. I very nicely declined and told her that I needed to go to a lot of different places that she had said she was going. And I do have to so it was and easy way out. Which she was ok with but, had to make a the comment, “Well ok, if you don’t want to run errands together, maybe you can come over on Saturday then”.Crap, just crap. I just told her that I wasn’t sure if Angus was working and would let her know.
I just don’t know what to do. Aidan likes to play with his cousins. Which brings me to the conversation of last week. This is pretty much how it went. She called on the phone late Friday afternoon and said she was going to stop by and pick up a foam chair that we borrowed for Aidan to sleep on the first week we were here. She needs it for a sleep over the boys are having. So she stops by and then says she is going to stay for a while so that my BIL will stop and pick the kids up from daycare. (Really I wouldn’t have cared, but Angus was home and we were talking about things) So she asked what we were up to that night and the rest of the weekend. I told her I really wasn’t sure. It was the first time Angus was going to be off of work. (he was going in for a while on Sat. but I wasn’t giving up that info lol) She then turns to Aidan and asked him if he wanted to come over and play tomorrow. He in return asked if maybe he could sleep over. She told him that it wasn’t a good weekend because she was working. Now, I was a little surprised that he asked this as he already asked if he could sleep over my brothers. He did say he would like to come over, so I agreed to make arrangement with my BIL in the morning. No big deal, I had to bring Sopia to a friends late in the morning and I could buzz him over after that, run errands and have some alone time with Zoe and then go pick him up late in the afternoon. Which is how it went.
Now to back up to Friday again. She stayed for about an hour and I needed to go to the store so she left then. About 5:40 she calls back and wants to know if Aidan can go to the movies with them, but I would have to drive him over to her house (half hour away). I told her that I had already had a glass of wine and was on my second, I really wasn’t comfortable with driving and he would be over tomorrow to play with the boys anyway. She was a little put off with me that I wouldn’t bring him. Ten minutes later my mother calls and says that she forgot she was suppose to call and ask if the Aidan could go to the movies with my sister and the boys. So I told her that I already spoke to my sister and I didn’t want to drive him over, he would play with them tomorrow. So she told me that she told my sister she would pick him up and drop him off if she drove him home after the movie. HELLO? What the fuck people? Now by this time Aidan has a pretty good idea of what is going on. So I ask him if he would like to. He really wasn’t sure if he did. But my mother was waiting out front for him and wanted him to come out so she wouldn’t have to park and come in. (she was out side the whole time she was talking to me) So he decided he would go. Angus is pretty pissed that this was all going on and didn’t want to let him go. But I told him that Aidan shouldn’t pay for the games my sister and mother play, and he agreed. ( my sister is IMing me as I type here, I thought you had a lot to do? Dang girl, go away!)
Do they really think I am a dumb ass or what? I just can’t believe she would call my mother and pull this crap. Or that my mother thinks I am dumb enough not to figure out she just called and bitched to her that I didn’t want to drive him! You would think my mother would have at least tried to lie a little better than she did lol. And what happened to this sleep over that the boys were having? And if this was a planned thing, how come my sister didn’t ask WHILE SHE WAS HERE AN HOUR OR SO EARLIER? Yeash, they are faltering in there game playing.
So anyway, off he goes with my mother. They are going to the 7:00PM movie and should be back by 9:30 or so. 9:45 rolls around and I figure the moving was longer than we thought. 10 Pm no Aidan. 10:30 no Aidan. 10:40 I call the cell phone. Oh we decided to rent a movie and stay here, its just ending and we will bring him home. My child did not get home until after 11PM. He is nine years old. Sorry but I think a phone call to let me know that they changed the plans and they would be at her house would have been nice. Angus was not a happy camper either. And um wouldn’t it have been better if he had just stayed over like he asked if she knew they were going to be that late? He was going to be over there in less than 12 hours again lol. When my mother asked if he had a good time the next day I told her about the change of plans and how late they dropped him off the next day, and that neither Angus or I were to happy about it. She said that I shouldn’t say anything to her about it, at all.
I don’t know if I am just being a bitch but, 1. I think on Friday she should have asked me if he could come over to play and not ask him, seeing how she wasn’t going to be there and I already told her I wasn’t sure what we were doing. 2. She should NOT have called my mother after I told her I didn’t want to drive him over on Friday night. I think that it might have been better if she mentioned that maybe my mother wouldn’t mind driving him and let ME call her if I wanted to. 3. She should have called me to let me know the change of plans and how late they might be. I don’t know, maybe its just me.
TTFN
Posted on 04/07/05 at 09:08 AM