ONE WOULD THINK
That I would have plenty of time, and plenty to write about since I have been back. I have been here for almost a month now. It has been pretty crazy and busy. My family really has dominated most of this past month. Which, really, I expected. I haven’t had a chance yet to see some people I would really like to. But seeing how, I am not going any place in the near future, there is time.
Some thing have gone as anticipated. Some things, until yesterday, have gone surprisingly well. Just a small bump in the road, but a bump none the less. And what bothers me most about the small bump is, that I didn’t say anything. I clammed up, and let it slide. I guess actually thinking about it now, there have been many small bumps. And I haven’t done anything about them. I guess I am trying to ease myself back in, without rocking the boat.
I haven’t been blogging about most of them because I think I have had Angus to vent to. Most of which have been about my older sister. Which, until Friday night, he really didn’t understand. He would tell me to take a deep breath, let it roll. Or just tell her to F**K off, and be done with it if it got too bad. I tell him, the later is not possible without maybe starting a big issue amongst the family. He doesn’t understand. I can’t control how she reacts, or how my other family members do.
I don’t know why everyone in my family caters to my older sisters, um how do I put this, outrages, or possibility of one? It’s hard to explain. She is a bitch. There I said it. Plain and simple. Have I said that somewhere in my ramblings before?I don’t know. She just seems to have to be included in everything. I can’t go anyplace with any family member without her being included. And it bugs the crap out of me.
Ok, lets see if I can give a few examples here. She was here when we pulled in the first night. Now in her defense, she did have a legitimate reason. My Mother was watching one of my nephews while she and my BIL were with my other nephew at a doctors appointment. But she new when we were coming in. Um, she has a regular baby sitter. My Mother usually only watched the boys when it’s going to be an over night thing. (But that really wasn’t an issue. I really wasn’t surprised that she would be there, as she can never miss anything. Its just part of the accumulation of the examples coming.)
I think I need to back track a little, to before we got in to NE. I think we were about half way here, and she asked if she could take the kids to their time share condo to go tubing the first weekend. Woo Hoo, sounds good. The kids will love it. But lets get there and get settled and we will see what is going on. As it turned out they decided to stay until Tuesday. Sophia and I had to register her for school on Monday. My Mother decided she really didn’t feel like going up there with the kids. And my niece, my brothers daughter, had a violin recital on Sunday and would love for us to be there.(We go, stay for dinner, brother and SIL get to know Angus a bit, its a fun evening) No big deal. It just wasn’t going to work. So, we decide to get together at her house for dinner on Friday night. Pretty good evening, and not too late of a night. The kids got to play a bit and I got updated on the going ons of old friends.
Now the reason I put this evening into my example is, that now I knew my family didn’t get together all that often. Even for birthdays, and holidays . My BIL told me that they haven’t been to my Brothers in a very long time. They really can’t be bothered. And they haven’t been down to their house in a long while either. Now, this coming from the BIL, was a little shocking. My brother and he have always had a very good friendship. He went on and had a few complaints about my SIL, and how she doesn’t work, and how my brother hardly has time to breath etc… Hum, sounds a little bitter, and a little like my sister talking here. Wonder what that is all about? But I know better, and just sit back a listen.
My Sister and SIL have always had a rocky relationship. Shit and all other kinds of things would hit the fan if SIL and I did anything together and Older Sister was not included. But that could be a post in it’s self. So the next weekend hits and Aidan is suppose to go and spend the night at my Brothers to play with my nephew Jeff. Sophia is at my younger sisters, and Zoe is at a friends. My Mother plans on bringing Aidan up there and asks if I would like to go. Sure, and Angus decides he wants to go. So last minute we all go. My brother plans for us to have burgers on the grill, as it is unusually warm out for NE. Well, I have no idea if my mother planted the seed or if my brother felt the need, but I was informed that my older sister, BIL, and boys are coming also. Hum,wonder what made them finally decide to trek on up there?
Now last weekend, my mother and I decide to go to a couple of stores to look for a few things to make life a little easier with all of us living together. Some shelves for the closet so the kids can fit more cloths on them etc.. sophia needs new panties and a few odds and ends. Nothing that is going to take to long to do. So we plan on going late morning. My mother informs me that the OS is coming along. We will go and meet her at her house. aidan will go over and play with Drew and Max(my older sisters two boys) while we are gone. She is not even close to being ready. She still has to dry her hair and feed the boys lunch. When she is ready, she suggest we go in her car. My mother declines and says she would rather take hers. Thank you Mom! Now its at least 2 PM at this point. We go to every store that my sister wants to just stop into for a sec. Then finally hit Target to get what we need. Then off to Christmas Tree Shop (which no complaint here) and poke around. She buys something that we have to go around back to pick up at the loading dock. We wait, and we wait. Its now about 6 PM. I still need cigs and want to get them there because they are a lot cheaper. I still have to go to the store and get something for dinner. We still have to go all the way back to her house to get the Aidan. I end up not getting my cigs there, as my mother is in such a hurry to get back at this point that she crosses the boarder and forgets. Oh I forgot to mention we have to hurry and get back because my OS and BIL are going out and Mom is watching the boys and spending the night.
Lets see, this is now what two unexpected OS time. And we come to this weekend. My mother and her boyfriend ask if we would like to go to a local club come Friday for a few drinks. They are really cheap. Low and behold Thursday, my mother tells me that , yup you guest, OS and BIL will be joining us! As it turns out we end up going out for a cheap bite to eat with just OS and BIL and meet mom and boyfriend later. This gave Angus and example of what OS can be like LOL. He now sees how too much OS time can drive someone batty!
At this point I am so, so afraid to call my brother to see if the kids are on vacation up there. Zoe wants to do a sleep over with my niece. One that she missed on the weekend of the recital. I am afraid that if I go up there and OS finds out a world war might break out. I feel like I can’t make a move without her being included. I know I need to talk to my brother about this, and my mother. I love my sister, don’t get me wrong. I just don’t want her in my freaking face every time I go out the door. I am just not sure how to go about telling them this without it causing problems. I hate the pressure of all of this. Why can’t I do things with my mother and or my brother, without her being included? I do things with her and, the brother and SIL are not included.
Well this has taken way to long to write. Angus is waiting for me to do a couple of things for him, and then stop by work. And its’ snowing out. I so don’t want to go out there in this sh*t!
TTFN
Posted on 02/21/05 at 10:59 AM