This whole stalker-girl scenario that I’ve been reading about all this while is one of the most bizarre stories I’ve heard Kate. I’d be scared to death of this girl. I hope all works out for the best.

She makes me uneasy. She’s freaking the lad out. She hasn’t done anything illegal—I guess. I don’t know how stalky someone has to be before their actions are illegal. But she is not normal in the least and even her sister says she’s acting really crazy lately. If provoked, what is someone like that capable of doing? I just don’t know. That’s what makes me uneasy.

Well you did better than I could have! Of course I have girls lol. Now if the shoe was on the other foot, male acting this way, no one would think twice about setting him in his place. Why is that? At least the sister has a clue, or seems to anyway.

Oh I dunno, J. Having seen what I’ve seen working with the Crisis Center, I may be a bit jaded with regard to males and their stalking. I’d be much less inclined to directly confront a stalking male. They often seem to have an affinity to shotguns.

Kate, I read this last night and since I seem to have lots of sleepless nights lately I decided to think about this problem instead of some more immediate ones here.  LOL I think--think is the key word - if I were you, I would put all of this to paper.  Bullet points or whatever, starting with the beginning up to and including the most recent.  If you have a friend or someone who is a lawyer and would not charge you, I would ask them to look it over, perhaps keep a copy.  Barring that, I think I would go to the police station, ask to speak to someone who might deal with these kinds of things, not to file a report, but to get advice and ask them to keep a copy.  I only say this to protect your son.  You need documentation.  And now that she is fantasizing about a midnight escapade I think it is very important.  I would not wait either, I would do it today.  Maybe just talk to someone today and then go home and document it all.  Protect him--the day of “innocent until proven guilty” seems to have gone by the boards sometimes, particularly in these kinds of cases.  People make accusations ALL the time that cannot be proven and in some cases, disproven.  It’s not worth it to wait.  Perhaps get his father involved.  Whatever, please, for his sake, take some steps to protect him and his reputation.........

Sadly, I think you’re right, Cyn. I hadn’t taken it to the next level, but you’re right. She’s already starting with the fantasy stories and it’s a short hop to an accusation if she doesn’t get what she wants. That’s the trouble with the whole thing. She’s unpredictable and I don’t know what she’ll say or do next. You have a very good idea here and it *is* time to consult with those who have experience with this sort of thing. And get the facts outlined and in someone’s hands before she does something else.

And may I also say, thank God for email, because they are legally recognized documents and the lad has a load of them along with his very succinct four line response. Not to mention a load of character witnesses including a couple of the local cops who he’s worked with in filming projects over the last year. I’ll see if I can speak to one of them.